Side Affects to Long Distance Relationship
Long Distance relationship is the next buzzword in town. Nowadays you will find one person or the other either talking about it or doing it? But is it really a new phenomenon or and old died mortal getting a new life these days.
I feel it has always been there… only since some few years the cases have changed from rare and far between to every now and then kinds. Haven’t you had some uncle or aunt in you family where uncle was in far land earning bread and butter for the family and poor aunty in some small town taking care of the kids or juggling her life in the big city all by herself? Well we can say that long-distance relationships are a Vedic phenomenon…
So what has changed, what gave this phenomenon its’ much due importance and glamour.
Well the equation has changed… There are no more poor aunties any more, who are living away to respect their better halves wishes. Well they are making this decision these days for their careers… (I am so sorry for my limited knowledge on this topic but I seriously could not think of any other reason in the current frame of reference.)
New or Old, I know one thing that it is definitely difficult to manage one. When I come to think of it… it does not even make sense. There are these two people who need to have an emotional bond, love, romance etc… between them and they are not even at arms length to each other. I hold a very conventional view to romance and love and thus believe that you need to be physically close to each other to be emotionally close also.
I have seen facets of the relationship when people are Just engaged, fully committed, or married. Oh yes, I am at least that modern in thinking that even a affair with say more than 100 miles between them will qualify for a long distance relationship. Thanks to the breakthrough in Tele-communications I feel this kind of relationships has become still viable these days.
People joke around that I cannot live without my cell phone but it is not the phone that keeps you hooked but the person on the other side. The daily routine will start with a wake up call, few missed calls in the day and few funny, or romantic text messages to other party and some reminder calls and then a good night call. In between btway I manage to do a lot of work too.
Just think about it, you are sitting in a happening party with your friends and enjoying yourselves and then suddenly your phone rings and you start looking for an excuse to excuse yourself out of that party; which five minutes back was so interesting and will again be after the call. I always wonder what keeps the fire on?
May be the trust, understanding, love or just plain perseverance. I feel it is mainly to do with the hope that one day we will be together. The future plans; those daydreams, unusual and most awaited weekend trips, and romance on the move keep it going. Every day is more or less an emotional upheaval. One day you will fight, other day some coo-chi-cooing, and yes we being girls can cry on one of the days. I wonder what guys do on those cry days? Do they silently cry or just some bickering while we cry. In millions of years that guys and girls have been going around the trees; I still fail to understand why guys are so uncomfortable handling the girl’s cry? How many years will they take to adapt to this phenomenon? Men have proved themselves slowest of all the animals to adaptation. I guess Darwin totally missed this point.
Well every thing is not so rosy-rosy as it seems. There are a lot of side affects I feel.
How will it be when you start living together cutting all those miles between you? After all you get used to those miles between; I wonder if the adjustments required for a relationship to work will be all the more difficult when you actually start living together.
You long for the closeness but the thought it scares you also in a way. Will we be ready to do all the sacrifices since we kinda get used to the freedom. How will the understanding suddenly dawn on both of us to become tolerant of the whims and fancies of the other person?
The breakthrough in telecommunications has not been able to rip the distance between two people. On a phone we are still voices, some people can attach a face and emotions to that voice but for some people it will be just a face. We might not know how he/she looks when she/he is smiling, being angry or like that. But suddenly there will be a face, body and emotions attached to all those talks and conversations.
The thought might be very scary but it is very exciting too I feel. You can now see that twinkle in the eyes when he is happy or dimple on her cheeks when she laughs. You can feel the dampness on your shoulder with her tears… or feel the anger oozing from his nose. I still do not know how it will be but I am surely looking forward to it…
I feel it has always been there… only since some few years the cases have changed from rare and far between to every now and then kinds. Haven’t you had some uncle or aunt in you family where uncle was in far land earning bread and butter for the family and poor aunty in some small town taking care of the kids or juggling her life in the big city all by herself? Well we can say that long-distance relationships are a Vedic phenomenon…
So what has changed, what gave this phenomenon its’ much due importance and glamour.
Well the equation has changed… There are no more poor aunties any more, who are living away to respect their better halves wishes. Well they are making this decision these days for their careers… (I am so sorry for my limited knowledge on this topic but I seriously could not think of any other reason in the current frame of reference.)
New or Old, I know one thing that it is definitely difficult to manage one. When I come to think of it… it does not even make sense. There are these two people who need to have an emotional bond, love, romance etc… between them and they are not even at arms length to each other. I hold a very conventional view to romance and love and thus believe that you need to be physically close to each other to be emotionally close also.
I have seen facets of the relationship when people are Just engaged, fully committed, or married. Oh yes, I am at least that modern in thinking that even a affair with say more than 100 miles between them will qualify for a long distance relationship. Thanks to the breakthrough in Tele-communications I feel this kind of relationships has become still viable these days.
People joke around that I cannot live without my cell phone but it is not the phone that keeps you hooked but the person on the other side. The daily routine will start with a wake up call, few missed calls in the day and few funny, or romantic text messages to other party and some reminder calls and then a good night call. In between btway I manage to do a lot of work too.
Just think about it, you are sitting in a happening party with your friends and enjoying yourselves and then suddenly your phone rings and you start looking for an excuse to excuse yourself out of that party; which five minutes back was so interesting and will again be after the call. I always wonder what keeps the fire on?
May be the trust, understanding, love or just plain perseverance. I feel it is mainly to do with the hope that one day we will be together. The future plans; those daydreams, unusual and most awaited weekend trips, and romance on the move keep it going. Every day is more or less an emotional upheaval. One day you will fight, other day some coo-chi-cooing, and yes we being girls can cry on one of the days. I wonder what guys do on those cry days? Do they silently cry or just some bickering while we cry. In millions of years that guys and girls have been going around the trees; I still fail to understand why guys are so uncomfortable handling the girl’s cry? How many years will they take to adapt to this phenomenon? Men have proved themselves slowest of all the animals to adaptation. I guess Darwin totally missed this point.
Well every thing is not so rosy-rosy as it seems. There are a lot of side affects I feel.
How will it be when you start living together cutting all those miles between you? After all you get used to those miles between; I wonder if the adjustments required for a relationship to work will be all the more difficult when you actually start living together.
You long for the closeness but the thought it scares you also in a way. Will we be ready to do all the sacrifices since we kinda get used to the freedom. How will the understanding suddenly dawn on both of us to become tolerant of the whims and fancies of the other person?
The breakthrough in telecommunications has not been able to rip the distance between two people. On a phone we are still voices, some people can attach a face and emotions to that voice but for some people it will be just a face. We might not know how he/she looks when she/he is smiling, being angry or like that. But suddenly there will be a face, body and emotions attached to all those talks and conversations.
The thought might be very scary but it is very exciting too I feel. You can now see that twinkle in the eyes when he is happy or dimple on her cheeks when she laughs. You can feel the dampness on your shoulder with her tears… or feel the anger oozing from his nose. I still do not know how it will be but I am surely looking forward to it…
--Nidhi
posted by Nk | 5:09 PM
1 Comments:
kya baat hian... shadi ke baat long distance relationships para article.. gud hain.... definitely now u've got the experience to write about it... hmmm....
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